One of the key aspects of trauma and attachment issues is underdeveloped emotional regulation. This means you might struggle with recognizing, acknowledging, and expressing your emotions in an emotionally mature way. You may not have learned how to feel and interpret what’s happening in your body, or perhaps you grew up with the message that feelings didn’t matter or were something to avoid.
When something happens in the present that unconsciously reminds you of a painful experience from the past, you can get triggered. Because you're also subconsciously reacting to that 'old pain,' your emotions may overwhelm you with an intensity that doesn't match the current situation. That intensity might be directed at yourself, manifesting as anxiety or tension, which can get in the way of your own well-being. It can also be directed at someone else. Since others usually don’t know your past, it’s very possible they won’t understand your reaction. Unintentionally, this can put a strain on your relationships with those around you.
Working on your emotional regulation can be an important first step in your healing process. With my guidance, you'll learn to better identify your body's signals, so your emotions won’t overwhelm you as much. You’ll start to experience what it’s like to fully allow and feel your emotions. You’ll also practice slowing down during trigger moments in order to gain perspective. Together, we’ll explore how to take care of your emotions in a healthy way—both preventively and during those trigger moments. And, as with everything: practice makes perfect. Over time, you’ll find yourself reacting in ways that best serve you, becoming a more balanced person.
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